Self Esteem is described as a psychological state that is based on a persons own evaluation of his or her worth. The concept deals with a person’s view on whether or not they are worthy of merit or praise. In short, your self-esteem describes the measure with which you like yourself.
Low Self Esteem is a term we use to describe people who do not think highly of themselves. People with low self-esteem have a low evaluation of their own self-worth. They do not feel good about who and what they are. This has the potential to create any number of problems for the individual that experiences the condition.
Low self-esteem can also be described in a simpler way as “feeling down about yourself.”
Common indicators of low self-esteem may include the following:
? Relying too heavily on others for decisions and direction
? Frequently feeling overwhelmed by common stresses of life
? Feeling physically inferior to others: appearance, fitness, height, strength, etc
? Frequent negative self-talk: “I’m not smart enough to do that.”
? Lack of motivation to act due to low faith in ones ability to meet challenges
? Hiding from problems, escape, drugs, alcohol, procrastination
? Excessive shyness, low assertiveness skills
? Self doubt, excessive self-consciousness, feeling inferior to others
? Overcompensation, acting like your are better than others to mask the truth
? Avoiding challenges and risks in life, fear of failure
Some other indicators are less obvious. These tendencies are outward and we tend to naturally associate them with more confident or over-confident personalities. The truth is that these indicators represent acting out which is nothing more than a form of overcompensation designed to hide feelings of weakness or inferiority. They may include the following:
? General anger and a need for revenge
? Short fuse, prone to frequent irritation which escalates easily to outbursts
? Confrontational, easily threatened and responds aggressively
? Blaming problems on others
? Argumentative about irrelevant or insignificant matters
? Redirecting you anger upon others
? Expressing happiness about the misfortune of others
? Excessive sarcasm or cynicism
? Disregard for others, Inconsiderate
Low self-esteem affects many people worldwide. Although it is a common ailment and we all experience it to some degree, there are many who would classify it as a disease or an illness. This has been debated but low self-esteem meets several criteria that define illnesses. For instance, low self-esteem can be uncontrollable, it manifests similar symptoms for many people and in many cases, it seems to stem from similar past experience such as abuse. People with low self-esteem also seem to be prone to other health problems due to the added stresses that frequently accompany this condition.
The Good News is that Low Self Esteem can Be Improved
Through diligent learning, and some disciplined work, we can improve our self-esteem. When we work to build our self-esteem, we start moving back toward productive and more successful, enjoyable lives. There are several things that we can practice every day to improve our self-esteem. Following are some things to practice.
? Stop criticizing yourself. Punishing yourself for perceived failures only weakens your self-esteem over time.
? Work on achieving your goals. Every day, try to make some kind of progress toward at least one of your life’s goals. Be diligent and commit to doing this every day. This will build your confidence and get you closer to your dreams.
? Fill your mind with positive information. Read self-help books. Participate in confidence courses. Study the things that motivate you and return to them often.
? Make an effort. Always try to succeed and accomplish tasks and challenges. If you succeed, it will strengthen your self-esteem as well as your confidence. If you fail, it will not matter because you will know that you tried your best.
? Highlight your strengths and keep them in mind as often as possible. Use them to handle situations that you find troublesome.
? Identify your problem areas and bad habits. If you are prone to anger, learn to recognize it and force yourself to stop before it gets out of control. It takes practice to stop your bad habits but the positive results are immediate. Think of all the negative situations that you will avoid by not reacting negatively to your environment.
? Visualize your success every day. When you wake up, picture yourself achieving your goals and becoming the person that you want to be. This is your motivation to make an honest effort to get closer to this future reality each day.
? Affirmations. Remind yourself of you positive traits as often as you can. Speak them aloud. Be bold.
? Focus on forward progress. Never look back. The past is irrelevant. Seek your desires and pursue them every day.
? Lear how to stop taking yourself so seriously. Life does not always have to be so dire. Relax and enjoy yourself. Learn humility and laugh at yourself. We all make mistakes. Sometimes they are humorous.
? Just be yourself. You can adopt any traits that you wish but you cannot be someone else. Learn to accept yourself and all of your flaws. You can improve them. Your faults do not define you.
Keep these ideas close at hand, if you feel the need to improve your self-esteem. Self-esteem is a critical part of life. It affects the way we feel, the way we act and the way we interact with the world around us. If you have low self-esteem, it has the potential to negatively impact everything you think and feel. It can affect everything that you do in every aspect of your life. Moving through life with low self-esteem is like swimming with chains tied to your ankles.